Family Quarrels
Genesis 13
My Thoughts
Just so you know, when I say family here, it doesn't just mean your biological/blood/household family. Friends can be family too!
The word 'quarrel' always reminds me of Professor Quirrell from Harry Potter. Stupid, I know. Anyways, quarreling is the same as fighting, but a stronger word for it. Obviously... And fighting is not usually a good thing. Unless you're fighting a sickness or something bad.
Families have fights sometimes and other minor quarrels that aren't necessarily a detrimental thing. Actually, sometimes small disagreements or fights between close people can bring them closer together. Sometimes things can get more heated, which is not a good thing because that is when hurtful things are said or other incidents not so minor.
Abram and his nephew Lot were travelling and living together. They settled together and everything. Each had their own possessions, flocks and herds, and servants. There was fighting between some of the servants, the herders and tenders of the animals, over things like pastures where the animals can feed. When there is fighting two people's friends or associates, often times it will grow to include the two.
Before things got bad, Abram decided that it would be better him and Lot to separate. Each would go their own way so as to stay on good terms with each other, but also to quell the quarrels of their servants. In our lives, sometimes the solution to a problem like this is the same: to separate. Now of course, what first comes to my mind is divorce. That's not something that should be considered.
With siblings, you may need to separate temporarily. Different rooms until a dispute is over, or if old enough, take walk/drive, maybe even to move out. That one would be more permanent and drastic. In the case of spouses or parents, there is nothing wrong with spending time away from each other for a while.
Again, going for a walk/drive (please don't be angry at the time...) is a good idea. Dad could go camping, with or without the kids, maybe mom, with or without kids, could go swimming. There is nothing wrong with being away from each other as spouses. As long as it is just alone time. Even if it is a day. Don't get carried away with it though.
Honestly, it would be much better in pretty much any cased to be away from each other and still love each other than it would to be together and hate each other. I think if more people just took that time for themselves when they felt they needed it, there'd be less estranged family members, less divorces, less broken and lost friendships and the like.
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| Professor Quirrell. |
Families have fights sometimes and other minor quarrels that aren't necessarily a detrimental thing. Actually, sometimes small disagreements or fights between close people can bring them closer together. Sometimes things can get more heated, which is not a good thing because that is when hurtful things are said or other incidents not so minor.
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| An example of quarreling. |
Before things got bad, Abram decided that it would be better him and Lot to separate. Each would go their own way so as to stay on good terms with each other, but also to quell the quarrels of their servants. In our lives, sometimes the solution to a problem like this is the same: to separate. Now of course, what first comes to my mind is divorce. That's not something that should be considered.
With siblings, you may need to separate temporarily. Different rooms until a dispute is over, or if old enough, take walk/drive, maybe even to move out. That one would be more permanent and drastic. In the case of spouses or parents, there is nothing wrong with spending time away from each other for a while.
Again, going for a walk/drive (please don't be angry at the time...) is a good idea. Dad could go camping, with or without the kids, maybe mom, with or without kids, could go swimming. There is nothing wrong with being away from each other as spouses. As long as it is just alone time. Even if it is a day. Don't get carried away with it though.
Honestly, it would be much better in pretty much any cased to be away from each other and still love each other than it would to be together and hate each other. I think if more people just took that time for themselves when they felt they needed it, there'd be less estranged family members, less divorces, less broken and lost friendships and the like.
Prayer Time
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Thank you for taking the time to read, I pray that what you have read blesses and inspires you! Godbless!
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